Five Things To Know When Selecting A Mate

You're physically attracted to a potential mate, yet do you have enough information to make an informed decision about the compatibility beyond the initial attraction?
Here's five clues that can help determine the longevity of your choice.

1. What's the core family values your potential mate believes? Knowing these things can help you understand what may be an asset, or a liability.

2. What's Important to your potential mate? What drives them, beyond core values? Knowing these facts, can be the difference between harmony, or conflict.

3. What past hurt does your potential mate have? Have the hurts been addressed, or just barried deep within thier identity, only to resurface and cause discourse later?
4. Does your mate have a set of emotional, spiritual, or physical tools that helps them deal with day to day life stress. And do you practice the like?

5. How does your potential mate feel about momey and are they manageable with the resources they have? Research shows, money is the number one division within relationships. Know where they stand is important.

All of these factors are crucial to a lasting relationships, which can determine if yours may be solid, or a time bomb waiting to explode to a hurtful break-up later. While sexual compatibility is a fantastic caveat, it is a small portion of the relationship as a whole. Knowledge of your potential mates past, i.e. patterns of dealing with intimate relationships is relative to whether you are in for a short emotional rollercoaster, or a somewhat smooth ride. Lasting intimate relationships are becoming a thing of the past...knowing these simple answers, can help determine if yours will endure.

Relationships

As we stumble through life, we make mistakes, some more than others, as bottoms vary, so does our self-will. Some of us are blind to our wrongs, unless someone points them out.  We have learned behaviors, some we've developed in haste, others as a way of survival in this battle called life. We hurt our spouses, family and friends most of all. We are intertwined with them through a delicate, emotional connection that is unique to each person. If we love deep, sometimes we hurt deeper. Whether we are the offender, or the victim, we feel damaged beyond repair. We often bring these untreated wounds into other relationships, which if not addressed, resurfaces only to sabotage the relationship. In turn we also hurt Our Lord. Any parent hurts when their child hurts, as does God when we harm his own. The hope lies in reconciliation, through forgiveness, coupled with love, these relationships can heal, the scarring can make a relationship stronger, or it can cause additional damage, depending on our level of surrender and our ability to remain teachable, also recognizing pride as our nemesis, being humble, before our actions cause great humiliation and harm.

Flaws

When we see others and thier imperfections, are we able to recognize that they are a imperfectic, or do we see them as perfectly flawed, just the way Our Father made them? If we love a person, do we embrace them and see the good, or do we focus on their flaws to an extreme that pulls us away from the delicate connection we've come to know and love about them? Criticism is spawned from the evil one, while encouragement comes from God. Should we build, or tear down?
The Bible states that the accusations of the accuser, will cause the accuser to be cast down. If we point out a flaw of another, are we not accusing God of making a mistake? Focusing on the assets another has, is being a true brother, or sister to them. Tearing another down with a  critical spirit attached is a direct liability from The Evil One. Which side of our humanity do we feed? The side that sees the imperfections of others and ourselves, or the side that sees the glory of the creator? It's a choice.

The Nuclear Word:

Words, how do we use them? Are words just meant for idle conversation and communication, or should we consider every word carefully?
Short Comings ought not be confused with intentional harm, or good. Words can be blessings and used to build our brothers and sisters up, or destroy them in the way a nuclear bomb does. Learning to taste the intent of a word is vital. Some words inspire to the point of giving encouragement where sorrow once lived. Then there's those nuclear words, spoken out of hurt, anger, fear, envy, or ignorance. Many people wish the words they've delivered could simply be  recanted, or deleted once sent from a feeling, especially the typed word, which can be perceived harsher than the intent of the writer.
One must be careful once a conversation has begun, it's tempting to defocus from self, during a harmless conversation and unleash a tactical nuclear strike. The justification of such talk, is often that its the truth, however what's the motive of The Nuclear word? Only a fool spews harmful folly, but a wise man knows when to remain silent. It takes discipline to bulid, rather the use nuclear words to destroy.

A Suffering Servant

Suffering: We read in The Bible that trials refine us, they teach us perseverance. Many of our trials come from others that sin against us, in doing so, they also sin against God. We are blessed when we suffer in the likeness of Christ Jesus, for he was the ultimate suffering servant. When others criticize us, we serve a great purpose. Its a vent of their frustration of our imperfections, or perhaps our sin; it's also a chance for us to suffer, although it's painful at times, we may see that throughout our lives, its in those moments of pain, that we become pliable. We are open to what changes need to take place for us to grow, while serving others in a way that allows them to not look at their defects, which can be exactly what they need, to cope with life at Gods perfect time. Serving is a deep spiritual concept, as Christ revealed to us, as he willingly went to The Cross for wretches like us.

Standing in the light

When a fellow Christian stumbles, our human reaction is to judge. lest us bear in mind, thier in the fight of their life. Ephesians 6:12 states that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but are attacks from the dark one.
We're all sinners and when our brothers and sisters fall, God is watching how we respond. Do we gossip, condemm and judge? Or do we help our fallen brethren to thier feet, loving them, when they don't love themselves? To be a light, to  stand in the light with thy brethren and guide them home, the good fight indeed.

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Russians Reaching Russians: A Mission of Fellowship Christian Church

Borrored from Fellowship Christian Churches Webpage:

Since the early 1990s, Fellowship has purposed to make a major impact in Russia, resulting in starting the ministry now called Russians Reaching Russians (RRR). RRR is an international church-planting and leadership-development ministry that has planted numerous churches and other ministries in the environs of Saint Petersburg—a city of close to 6,000,000 people. RRR also has helped start significant prison, foster-care, and drug rehabilitation ministries in Russia where the love of God has changed thousands of lives. One of RRR’s key leaders is Denis Kozlov. Denis lives in Saint Petersburg, Russia, and currently ministers as a liaison between leaders of Russian churches/ministries, RRR leadership and Fellowship Church. Denis helps organize short-term mission trips sponsored by Fellowship each year. As well, Denis has also helped bring relevant training, conferences and seminars to Russia to help develop leaders and churches. Since 1999 Denis has been traveling to the US to foster relationship between Russian Churches and American Churches. http://www.russiansreachingrussians.com